Tuesday, February 5, 2013

The Grass is Always Greener

Today I want to talk about the one uppers. You know the bitches that always have to steal your thunder. You go into a conversation super excited about your new shoes, or the date night you just had, the two pounds you just lost, or the fact that you just stuffed your face with three slices of pizza. Then wham someone else got their shoes for free, just returned from Paris, has 2% body fat, or brought in homemade pie for the whole office.

Dont you just hate those people? I mean why do they have to 1up your story? Couldnt they have saved their tale for another day and just expressed some enthusiasm for you? Would that have killed them?

I mean that used to really bust my butt, but now I'm a mom and I shit you not it has been taken to a WHOLE new level. I'm a new mom, I brag about my kid on the regular, obvi. I truly love to hear about what other kids are doing, mainly because I have no clue what I'm doing, but I think it's just part of my new job description. Mom's need reassurance, actually all people need reassurance and affirmation, but moms really need it. What I dont need is to know how your child is some kind of Beethoven Nobel Peace Prize winning genius. Some days it's all I can do to keep my child fed and alive, please dont rub in my face that your 10 month old counted to ten in two different languages while taking their first step. I mean, I'm happy for your kid and all but sometimes I just want you to say "wow that is so cool that BK did that today."

I've been feeling that way a bit with blogging lately. I just reached 400 followers, FOUR HUNDRED y'all! And that is huge for me. I've barely been blogging for two months and I put my heart and soul on this here page. I am so thankful that you come, read, and interract with me. With that being said, I sat at 390 for like two weeks. I remember seeing some people blow up from 200 to 400 like literally over night and seeing it all over twitter and all of the congratulations those people got. Me I threw my own little party with some champs and BK shared some puffs with me, pretty good party if you ask me.

What I realized though was that I cannot compare myself to others. {Two of my favorite bloggers also wrote posts on similar topics. You can read Whitney's & TJ's.} Each of us are on our own path, we have our own story to share, and we need to embrace that. We should spend more time basking in our own joys and lifting each other up opposed to competing with one another.

Love the life you live.



  1. This is so important to remember friend. Thanks for the reminder. Love you.

  2. I really enjoyed this post (and knowing that somebody feels the same way at times)... I have gotten really close to some bloggers and ended up feeling pushed away by the constant bragging. I feel guilty because I fear that jealousy is getting the best of me at that point, but really its not even that... Its the loss of connection and feeling like you can relate because you feel that you aren't as good as them. :/ Thanks for sharing!

  3. One uppers are one uppers because they lack confidence. They are almost like bullies in that they build themselves up by putting others down. Find solace in the fact that you do not have to do so to build your own confidence. Also remember, one uppers are undoubtedly almost ALWAYS over-exaggerators... :) Keep on keepin' on girl and don't let those one uppers bother you too much, no matter how annoying it is!

  4. love this post! so so true

    I used to work w. a 1-uper! oh man she made my day hell PURE hell! Anytime anyone would talk about anything she ALWAYS had a better story or oh my kids did that...even to this day when I happen to stop in and say hi she STILL does it! {congrats on 400 followers btw}

  5. Ugh I have been feeling like this for a week or so now and it's just gotten me in a funk! Thanks for the reminder to stop comparing myself with other people- you always write the best stuff at the perfect time

  6. Love this post! This is one of my major pet peeves! And I totally agree about the blogging aspect. I have a really hard time not comparing my achievements to other's achievements in my regular life, so I think it's amplified in my blog life because it's all over social media networks constantly. I look at it this way - if I'm happy with what I'm posting and proud to hit publish, then I try not to worry about all the rest. Because in the end, that's what really matters, right! Easier said than done, but it's worth the effort!

    Congrats on 400 followers! You deserve it!


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