relationships

Being that it is now February and the month of l.o.v.e I thought that we could talk a little about relationships this week. 

Relationships are hard. They are work. Love that comes easy, it’s everything else that is hard. There are so many outside forces to deal with, to contend against. And it’s like that for all relationships. Friendships, romantic relationships, hell even family.

I grew up before my time, Was forced to mature too early. I have a wonderful mom and a terrific father, but my childhood was not ideal. My parents are divorced but I remember them being together. I saw how fiercely they loved each other, that’s where I learned how deep love should be. I remember my mom once saying that “being with my dad was like fireworks.” Strong imagery right? They were fireworks all the time though. When it was good it was spectacular, and when it was bad it was b.a.d. Needless to say, they didn’t really teach me what it takes to make a marriage work. Honestly, they probably aren’t the best examples of how to make any kind of relationship work. But that’s ok, I did learn a thing or two from them.

Now I am in my own firecracker relationship marriage. I am blessed to have married the love of my life. Four years and a baby later, and I still get butterflies when we kiss. I have to say though our relationship is way different than what I saw in my parents. We know to communicate. S is truly my best friend and we can talk about anything. It doesn’t always come easy, and it isn’t always the first thing we do, and it definitely took a while for us to learn. But we do really great when we finally get down to it. It’s a wonderful thing, and I never fear that we’ll find an obstacle we can’t beat.

What are your keys to good communication in a relationship?